Hello 2007

Monday, January 01, 2007

Sometimes people we love, or at least people that we feel that we should love are miserable and unhappy. And we get frustrated that they can not share in our happiness because they are at such a low place that they see no hope or no end to their suffering. And we, in return, feel frustration and even anger in knowing that there is nothing at all that we can do to change this fact. There is no cure, no words, no gestures of goodwill that will bring this around. No resolutions that will magically change their lives so that they can, once again, or perhaps for the first time, enable them to open their eyes completely and witness the joy around them. When you are surrounded by hate, anger, lacking in hope, you do not want to be constantly reminded that there are those who are happy, free from horror and sadness. We are the people who have choices and full lives to live. These people need help, and we want nothing more than to reach out to them, but the very act of reaching makes the reminders of what they do not have even more apparent. And so we continue to endlessly wait. Hoping that one day, their eyes will magically open, but also that their situation will change and somehow get better. It is hard to know how this can or will happen. What kind of onus is on those of us living full and happy lives? I don’t know the answer to this question, so in the meantime, I will wish and hope that just maybe 2007 will bring something good for these people.

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1.  Dr. Deb said:
   2:47 PM  

   Wishing for this and trying to reach out reminds us that there is a great loss there. It's hard. And as each year begins anew lies the possibility for change.

1.  Devil Mood said:
   3:00 PM  

   It's complicated...
   But it's good to see that you maintain your hopes up, so it should be at the very beginning of a new year.
   I hope this year can bring you some developments in that darker area of your life.

1.  x said:
   4:34 PM  

   i wish that too Cathy. The darkness of the soul is the darkest darkness. But there is always hope and new beginnings are all about hope. I have hope, i've seen miracles happen, so yes, there is hope. xxxx
   Happy new year!

1.  Pat Paulk said:
   6:49 PM  

   You are very kind to think of those suffering from whatever causes. Hopefully those you refer to know this and receive some comfort in knowing you care.

1.  Carole Burant said:
   7:52 PM  

   Happy New Year to you and yours, dear Cathy! I'm so glad our paths crossed in this big wide world of blogging and I so look forward to future posts and comments:-) Much love xoxo

1.  Jeanne said:
   8:23 PM  

   Blessings and a most wonderful New year to you.
   Let us hope it is a great one.
   Love Jeanne

1.  Trundling Grunt said:
   8:51 PM  

   I know this comes very close from your heart and I feel very obtrusive asking, but how are things with your brother? Please feel free to say that it's none of my business.

1.  Stephanie said:
   9:14 PM  

   Those are bigger questions than I can answer, because I am mostly the one kind of person, but occasionally the other. (And you know that I understand what you mean.)
   
   I wish you and yours a very amazing 2007, and hope that the good things keep up, and the dark things are brighter in the new year.

1.  Cathy said:
   9:21 PM  

   Thank you for your comments, as always, friends. They are most helpful.
   
   Grunt;
   This post was in reference to my brother, who is not at all well. He has not made another attempt on his life, but he is being abused and can't pull himself away from the relationship he is in. I feel so very sad for him, and the fact that as a grown man, he can not pull himself away from the very situation (namely his wife)that is so destructive. The fact that he can not see this for himself is so frustrating for me. I would say that he has a bad dose of Stockholm Syndrome, and his wife is doing everything she can to try and turn him away from my parents, sister and myself. It is frustrating, but mostly just so very sad for him.

1.  Anonymous said:
   9:28 PM  

   I have learned from personal demons that a miserable person is that way because they choose to. They are the only one who has the ability to change their own life.

1.  sjobs said:
   10:07 PM  

   I also wish that those whose souls are in dark place can find it a little brighter in 2007.
   
   Have a wonderful 2007 my friend.
   
   Mary

1.  for_the_lonely said:
   11:09 PM  

   You have such an awesome soul, Cathy. I have been in the spot that you talk about...it's a rough one. Knowing that there is such love, joy and pleasure is often a wonderful salvation! Keeping you and yours in my prayers!
   
   Love,
   Sarah
   
   Wishing you all the best in 2007, too! ;)

1.  Michelle said:
   1:18 AM  

   Hmmm, this topic is very close to me. I am at the point now where i just accept the depressive nature..the sadness...the negativity...the "its all about me" attitude...the unconvincing shallow interest in my families life and every excuse under the sun of why something can't be done, and the difficulty one must go through. Its been like it for years, and it will only get worse as this person ages. Angry? Hell yes! But, i will never change their attitude, so no point getting me or my family down. Accept it.

1.  Michelle said:
   1:19 AM  

   Just read "Day's" comment....she's spot on!

1.  Cathy said:
   8:24 AM  

   Michelle and Day;
   I totally agree with you both; it is nice to hear such comments, though, because it validates what I am thinking. And Michelle, as always...our mothers will never change...
   
   Sarah and Mary;
   Happy New Year again!

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