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cathy


Square Peg

Wednesday, November 22, 2006

I am tired of giving and not receiving. Of being disappointed and let down by people. With investments come returns. I am the shoulder, but never the arm. It's too familiar. But I don't understand it. It is easy to be there in bad times. Most believe it to be the other way around. But that's not true. All the false friendships come pouring out of the closets. But in good times, this is more difficult. Where are those people to share in your joy? They are nowhere to be found. We like to share in others' misery for it makes us feel better somehow. The superiority and inferiority of it all tires me. I chose neither, so why must you? Beware, false friendships...

  1. Blogger DayByDay4-2Day said:

    I find that I might be one's shoulder and another's arm. But now it makes me wonder why I can't be the arm for the first one and the shoulder for the other at times. Except that I find that they aren't open to idea of it. I have tried to get my friend who is always on my shoulder to let me lean on hers, but she just seems to push a way.

  1. Blogger [eric] said:

    "I am the shoulder, but never the arm."

    That is so true for many. Indeed, that's the key to knowing whether you're really friends or not.

  1. Anonymous Anonymous said:

    Day;
    I am sorry that you can also relate to this..I would hope that most people don't and that they ahve been fortunate to find good friendships in their lives.

    Eric;
    It's really sad, though, when you thought that the friendships were real. Thanks for understanding.

  1. Blogger Cathy said:

    Ummm,...that wasn't anonymous: that was me :)

  1. Blogger Ben said:

    Ouch Cathy, someone's hurt you really bad.

    BTW I got your email and I'll be sending the package at the weekend. If there's anything I can think of I'll let you know.

    Thanks Cathy

  1. Blogger sophie said:

    I hate foul weather friends.

    So three years ago i dropped them
    all.

    And now I am far better off.

  1. Blogger holy chaos said:

    i know just what you are talking about. i have been hurt by people like that.

    btw, i am going to read "The Zahir." can't wait to start it!

  1. Blogger Devil Mood said:

    Bah, that's bad. I don't like that. (shake my head) No, no...

    I agree with you, in hard times people know how to behave somehow, when everything is good it gets disperse and some people can't deal with their jealousy. :(

  1. Blogger Dr. Deborah Serani said:

    I can SO relate to that. When you are a giver, it comes naturally. But when you give and never feed fed in return, it burns you out. I say, "YES" to giving those who take and don't give back the cold shoulder.

    Peace out,
    Deb

  1. Blogger Tee said:

    That stinks :p

    Maybe that's why I'm so hesitant to make friends. It hurts so much when they let you down and sometimes reveal themselves not to really be a friend at all.

    I hope you find someone worthy of your friendship to patch up that hole.

  1. Blogger Stephanie said:

    Sorry people let you down :(

    A million excuses aren't worth a thing when someone you count on lets you down.

  1. Blogger Heidi said:

    Cathy, I'm sorry this is happening to you..Not fair :(

    I can relate as well being the giver and not having the shoulder when I most need it. You know who your ture friends are...I've learned that lesson many times.

    Hugs~

  1. Blogger Connie and Rob said:

    Dear Cathy,
    I have always been the type to be there for people. I know how it hurts when no one comes around to check on you. People do get used to taking and never even think that it might be nice to reciprocate once in a while.

    So very sorry you are feeling bad. Sending you big hugs my friend.

    Take care,
    Connie

  1. Blogger Cathy said:

    Friends;
    I was upset this morning, but pretty much over it by noon...what can I say; I can be fickle.
    My "I dont' want to work" mood continued, although I did get quite a bit accomplished today.
    I hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving, American friends...

  1. Blogger PEA said:

    I can relate to that too, Cathy...so many times I've been there for someone I considered a friend and yet when it came my time to be in need, I was alone. I've now been blessed with a friend who for the last 5 years has been there for me as much as I'm there for him...feels good to know I finally have a TRUE friend!! xox

  1. Blogger Christopher said:

    bang on. Exactly.

  1. Blogger Tongue in Cheek Antiques said:

    May today be different, and may friends offer their hand, arm, shoulder, and lead you to stay in their heart and enter into yours as well.

  1. Blogger Stephanie said:

    I'm sorry you've been let down. :(

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